Talking To Your Spouse About Divorce Mediation

You and your spouse have already made the decision to seek a divorce, but what is the best way to have a discussion with your spouse about whether to choose divorce mediation or divorce litigation? While there are a number of good reasons for many couples to try divorce mediation before heading to court, it is also understandably difficult to bring up a discussion about mediation with your partner during such a fraught time in your relationship.

•    Pick a time to talk in which neither of you are angry or emotional. Studies have shown that humans actually have difficulty listening to new ideas when they feel anger. You and your spouse may be fighting a lot at the beginning of the divorce process, but try to find a time when both of you are calm and open-minded.
•    Let your spouse be part of the decision. Coming out and saying that you think mediation is the best idea may be less effective than sharing the benefits of mediation with your spouse and letting your spouse decide for himself or herself whether or not it could be the best avenue to try.
•    Have information and resources at the ready. Your spouse will probably have a lot of questions about mediation – and he or she may want to hear facts that don’t come directly from you. Be sure to have information available or a list of online resources for them to explore on their own time.

If you can’t imagine having an open and honest conversation with your spouse regarding divorce mediation, mediation might not be the right choice for your family. Divorce mediation requires that both spouses are willing to cooperate, willing to talk openly about their needs, and willing to compromise and make tough decisions. If your spouse is unwilling to consider mediation, it is a strong sign that he or she might not benefit from the mediation process anyway.

Do you have more questions about divorce mediation, or are you looking for a divorce mediation attorney? Talk to our Seattle and Bellevue divorce mediation attorneys today about your situation or download one of our free divorce guides.
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