This week we have been discussing how you can successfully compromise during your divorce mediation in Washington State—by outlining your needs, listening to the needs of your ex, and using the help of your mediator and attorney. One of the most important components in compromise, though, is realizing that you can’t have it all.
Compromise Always Involves Concession
If you had your way, you would probably leave your ex with very little, let alone half of your property and assets. And if they had their way, you would probably not fare very well at all either. At the heart of compromise is concession: you will have to give up some things that you want, and your spouse will also give up some things that they want. The best compromises leave each partner with what is most important to them, but without everything that they wish for.
During the mediation process, try to ask yourself what is fair instead of asking yourself what you want.
Understanding the Difference Between Need and Want
What do you need, what do you truly want, and what are you owed? Each of these questions has a different answer. For example, you may think that you need the house, but this usually isn’t the case. Before you begin to compromise, it’s important to know your true needs as well as what you deserve under the law. It’s equally important to know what you can live without and what your spouse deserves.
Seattle Family Mediation Attorney
A Washington divorce mediation lawyer can help you determine what a fair outcome is, as well as help you work with your ex to find an equitable solution. In addition, an attorney can verify that your final property division and divorce agreement is just and legal. To learn more about the mediation legal services offered at The Law Offices of Molly B. Kenny, contact us today.