This week we discussed a new divorce study that found that ex-spouses have more success at co-parenting when they put aside their differences and focus on what’s best for their children. And last year, New York Times journalist Susan Gregory Thomas discussed the existence of the elusive “good divorce.”
Are these all-positive, no-harm-done divorces a myth, or are there really couples who are able to navigate the divorce process without any of the anger, regret, resentment, or sadness that so often comes with ending a marriage. At the Law Offices of Molly B. Kenny, we know that very, very few divorces are finalized without some degree of hurt, sadness, and fear of the unknown. But we also know that many divorces mark the end of a difficult time and the start of a new chapter. While completely “good divorces” – in which there are no heartbreaks or hard feelings – are few and far between, we believe that there are a number of factors that can make your divorce better:
- A fair divorce. You and your ex-spouse are more likely to get along after the divorce if both parties believe that the property was divided fairly and that the process was just. And even if you know you will never be able to repair any kind of relationship with your ex, leaving a divorce knowing you got your fair share is important to moving on.
- A fast divorce. There is perhaps nothing worse that deciding to end your relationship – and then dealing with the process of ending the relationship for many months or even years. A divorce that doesn’t drag out can help you get to your new start faster and help prevent negative feelings about your spouse from festering.
- A divorce that puts the kids first. When you focus on the needs of your children – commonly, their need to feel love from both parents and their need for normalcy – you can often curb the detrimental effect of divorce for everyone.
- A divorce that’s best for everyone. At the heart of every “good” divorce is the feeling that you made the right choice for you and your family to end the marriage and move on. Getting to this point emotionally may be easy or hard for you, but therapy, counseling, or even talking to a friend can help.
At our law offices, we understand that “good divorces” are rare, but we also understand that we have the opportunity to make all divorces fairer, faster, and easier for everyone involved. If you need the assistance of an experienced Bellevue divorce attorney who cares, call us today at 425-460-0550.