If you’re going through a divorce, you’re probably being bombarded with tips and advice from your friends, family and even your coworkers about your financial situation, children, when you should start dating again and more. While divorce advice from friends and family members is usually well intentioned, it’s often not valuable and can make going through a divorce even more stressful. To help you when getting divorced, here are some tips for filtering and coping with advice from friends and family.
Learn How to Cope Mentally with Excessive Advice
Telling your friends and family that you don’t want to hear their advice probably isn’t the best course of action. Instead, learn how to cope mentally with all the excessive advice you receive. Think about each piece of advice and apply it to your life -- does it really make sense for you? If you need help learning how to deal with advice emotionally or mentally, taking time to unwind and engage in activities that you enjoy, seeking the help of a mental health professional or even taking a mini-vacation can provide the much-needed reprieve you deserve, allowing you more time to process and filter advice.
Meet with Experts and Professionals
If your family or friends advise you to sell your home or assets, divvy up your stock options before the divorce goes to court or to make another large financial decision, don’t take any action to do so -- it could be financially detrimental. Rather, meet with a financial planner or professional to learn about all of your assets and how best to manage them during divorce. The same goes for decisions about children – instead of acting on the advice of your friends or family, meet with a child psychologist or family expert to determine how you can best protect your child psychologically.
Seek a Lawyer’s Advice
Perhaps the best and most knowledgeable resource during divorce is a family law and divorce attorney. A family law and divorce attorney not only knows Washington State’s laws concerning divorce, but also knows what factors can help or hurt your chances (of getting custody, alimony, child support, etc.) during a divorce case and can provide you with recommendations and references for everything you need to know about divorce.
At the Law Offices of Molly B. Kenny, our attorneys know that your friends and family mean well. However, we also know that following the advice of family and friends during divorce isn’t always in your best interest. If you have questions about your divorce, contact us today to get the answers you’re looking for at 425-460-0550.