This month we have been discussing dating after a divorce – when to do it and how to do it safely and successfully. Perhaps the biggest and most important question about dating and divorce is knowing when you are ready to start. Here are four questions to ask yourself:
- Are you emotionally healed? You do not want to start dating after a divorce if you are still carrying around baggage from your last relationship, if you still feel for your ex, or if you are still feeling large amounts of anger and depression. If you are still having issues with your self-esteem or trust, you may wish to wait a bit longer.
- Are your children ready? Your children have been through a traumatic event and also need time to heal emotionally. It can be tough for them to understand that you are ready to welcome a new love interest into your life. Make sure they are ready for the change, and consider not having them meet new partners until things get more serious.
- Do you know what you want? Too many divorcees jump into dating before getting comfortable with who they are post-divorce and what they want out of their next relationship. Be sure to get secure as a single person before looking for security with someone else.
- Could it hurt you legally? Dating may not be the best idea if your divorce isn’t finalize, if you are working on child custody, or if there are other unsettled legal or financial matters pertaining to your marriage. Make sure you won’t have any legal worries before starting to see someone new.
The Seattle divorce attorneys at the Law Offices of Molly B. Kenny are here to help. To speak with a lawyer, call us today at 425-460-0550.