Seattle Domestic Violence Attorney: Dating After An Abusive Relationship

Whether you were in a physically, verbally, or emotionally abusive relationship, it can be extremely difficult to heal yourself completely, let alone think about starting a new relationship. However, you should know that given enough time, counseling, self-reflection, and space, you will be able to return to a normal, happy, full life – and a life that could include a healthy relationship with a new partner.

Here are just a few things to consider before reentering the dating world after escaping an abusive or violent relationship.

• Make sure you are ready. It is vital that you repair your body, your heart, and your spirit before you let someone new into your life. Work on your self-esteem and your self-worth by spending time with family and friends who love you for exactly who you are.
• Take things slow. Some people who have formally been victims of abuse have the tendency to enter into a co-dependent relationship quickly or to date someone who aggressively protects them from others. Be aware of these issues by taking dating slow and not getting too involved too quickly. There's no reason to rush.
• Look for red flags and old patterns. Be wary of dating those with common signs of abusers: those with substance abuse issues, erratic behavior, or a lack of empathy. At the same time, be aware if you are falling into old patterns of victimization. Don’t be afraid to take about either issues with a therapist or counselor.
• Trust your instincts. You’ve learned a lot from surviving an abusive relationship. If you are feeling any sort of discomfort or uneasiness while on a date, trust your feelings and end the date.
• Remember that there are good people out there. It is easy to become cynical, afraid, and overly wary after heartbreaking years of abuse. However, know that there are many, many loving and respectful people in the world – and one of them might be a good fit for you.

Do you need legal assistance with your domestic violence or domestic abuse case in Washington State? Contact Seattle family law attorney Molly Kenny today, and get someone on your side.