It can be difficult to understand how your role as a parent changes when you have shared physical custody after a divorce – or what exactly you should do during your weekend child visitations. Here are a few quick tips and ideas:
- Keep a schedule, but be flexible – Children thrive on schedules, but flexibility is key, especially if you have your children on the weekends. Plan on regular meals and regular morning and bedtime routines. A little spontaneous fun is good, too.
- Find out if your children have plans – If you have school-aged children, they will likely have weekend activities somewhat often, from a sleepover to a little league game to a school play. Make sure that all of these events are listed on a common family calendar.
- Resist being a Disneyland Dad – Whether you are a mom or a dad, try to avoid making weekends non-stop adventures filled with ice cream and thrills. Don’t try to buy your children’s love or make up for the divorce. Your children need love and security—and your attention.
- Take an interest in your child and share your own interests – Try to balance the weekend between things your child enjoys and your own interests. If your kids are old enough, ask them what they’d like to do.
- Quality time is most important – Whether you are hanging out in your backyard or at a baseball game, the most important thing you can do is spending quality time with your kids. Talk to them. Ask them questions. Listen to what they have to say. Love them. That’s more important than any activity.
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