Getting “Back Out There” Takes Time After A Divorce

It can be difficult to re-enter the dating scene and meeting new people after a divorce, especially if you have been married for many years, says Dr. Pepper Schwartz, a professor of sociology at the University of Washington in Seattle. The dating world has probably changed a lot since you were a part of it, and the end of a long-term relationship can leave you feeling overwhelmed or even jaded about meeting new people.

Schwartz recommends that singles in their 40s and 50s should think about going on a vacation specially organized for older singles – or that you check for singles groups in your area. Even though you might not be familiar with online dating services, creating a profile can help you test the waters and see how you feel about getting out there again.

First though, Schwartz says that you should be sure you are completely emotionally ready to move on before you re-enter the dating scene. Emotional issues like anger, guilt, or self-esteem problems could hinder your chances of making a real connection with someone new, while being emotionally ready to let someone new into your life can lead to a whole new chapter.