Valentine’s Day is supposed to be a holiday filled with love and romance. But for someone who has recently gone through a divorce, a day about sweethearts and commitment can be unwelcomed or even depressing. How can you survive a holiday made for couples so soon after becoming single?
- Focus on your other loves. Valentine’s Day isn’t just about husbands and wives—or even just about romantic partners. It’s also about showing love to anyone who is in your life: your family, your friends, and any other loved ones in your life. Mail your sister a Valentine, get a box of chocolates for your best friend, or bring flowers into your office. No one ever felt bad about spreading love.
- Remember why you split. Valentine’s Day may have you feeling nostalgic for (or bitter about) past romantic holidays with your ex. But instead of remembering the good times and feeling depressed or angry, try to remember why things didn’t work out and why you are better off after the divorce. Chances are a Valentine’s Day in an unhappy marriage is worse than a Valentine’s Day spent solo and independent.
- Avoid contacting your ex. This is not the time to dwell on the past—either to feel bitterness or to yearn for better times. Some people feel the urge to contact their ex in order to share feelings, explain their sadness, or just reconnect. Others wish to share their feelings of anger or disappointment. While talking through feelings with your ex may be appropriate at some point, Valentine’s Day may not be the best time to explore these feelings.
- Do something for yourself. Too often we forget the importance of self-love—and it is so important in the wake of a bad break up or divorce. When is the last time you did something special for yourself? Now is the time to receive the Valentine’s present that you always wanted—give it to yourself! Whether it’s a trip to the spa, a meal at your favorite restaurant, or a piece of jewelry, take the moment to treat yourself right.
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