Going through a divorce can be financially difficult and emotionally exhausting, and it’s not uncommon for divorcé(e)s to come away from a divorce suffering from mild or severe depression. If you’re suffering from depression after your divorce, here are some tips to help you get back on your feet again.
Find an Activity -- Physical and Mental
One of the side effects of depression is a feeling of sluggishness and not wanting to do anything, from socializing with friends to getting outdoors. According to Psychology Today, one of the best ways to beat depression is to become active. Exercise can be one of the most potent combatants of depression – there are multiple studies that point to exercise as a way to treat depression, and some studies suggest that exercise may be an alternative for anti-depressant medication for some people.
In addition to getting yourself up and moving physically, find an activity that your mind enjoys, too. This can be a project or hobby, a weekly night out with friends, or simply reading a great book. By taking your mind off of your divorce, you may be able to refocus on your own life.
Stop Punishing Yourself
It’s not uncommon to feel racked with guilt, embarrassment or shame following a divorce. However, focusing on these feelings won’t help alleviate your depression, but can be very damaging instead. While you are definitely allowed a grieving period – and should allow yourself one, according to an article by licensed therapist Debra Warner, MS, MFT published on PBS.org – give yourself a timeline, and then start the process of forgiving yourself. The more you punish yourself, the harder it will be to move forward with your life and to enjoy yourself and the things that you love.
Turn to Others for Help
During a divorce, relying on your friends and family for emotional support can be valuable. Encourage yourself to schedule time for your loved ones and allow yourself to participate in fun activities.
If your depression isn’t getting better, consider seeking professional support from a licensed psychologist or other mental health professional.
Let an Attorney Help with the Legal Matters of Divorce
If you’re thinking about filing for divorce in Washington State, we at the Law Offices of Molly B. Kenny understand how difficult the process can be. To make things a little easier, we’ll work patiently with you to make sure your divorce goes as smoothly as possible, eliminating any unnecessary stress. If you need help with your divorce, call us today at 425-460-0550 or contact us online for help.
