I’ve represented people at various stages of life in divorce. In addition to helping with their legal case, I often advise them to really consider whether they are ready to start seeing people again and to take precautions if they decide they are. If they want to start dating before their divorce is final, I tell them to consider the impact of dating while separated as well.
Ultimately it’s a personal decision. But in addition to the usual tips, dating after a gray divorce brings with it unique circumstances. Here are some tips for those considering dating after a divorce at an older age.
Take Steps to Protect Your Assets
If you have already gone through a divorce, then you understand firsthand how challenging certain aspects of a divorce, such as fighting over issues like asset and property division, can be. Take steps to protect your assets early on if you start dating again.
This may include making sure bank accounts and credit cards are only in your name, and being careful about names on titles or leases if you decide to move in together. If you decide to marry the person whom you are dating, you may consider a prenuptial agreement.
Tell Your Family That You Are Dating Again
Telling your family that you are dating again can be tough. Even if your children are grown, the divorce may still be difficult for them. Maintain an open dialogue with your children and other family if you are thinking of dating.
Further, remember that people of retirement age can be a target for scammers. Make your family aware that you are allowing a new person into your life; this could further help protect you as they watch out for your physical, emotional, and financial well-being.
Consider Impact on Social Security and Retirement
If you are thinking about remarrying, consider the impact that your remarriage will have on things like your Social Security benefits and retirement. The Social Security Administration has a lot of resources about Social Security benefits if you are divorced, and what happens to those benefits if you remarry.
Protect Yourself Against STDs
Age does not protect you from sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). In fact, the numbers of STDs amongst older people are actually growing; an article in The New York Times reports that between 2007 and 2011, chlamydia infections amongst Americans ages 65 and older increased by 31 percent, and syphilis by 52 percent. If you are considering being intimate with your new partner, undergo regular STD testing and always use protection.
Divorce Attorneys Serving Clients in Washington State
I understand that a gray divorce can have its challenges. If you want to talk to a divorce attorney about how to protect your assets or if you are considering remarriage and want to learn more about prenuptial agreements, we can help. Contact us today at 425-460-0550.
